It really upsets me that one of Russell's grown children in the Carolinas is treating him so unfairly. He moved to the Carolinas over five years ago to get to know his children who were taken there by their mother when they were younger. He wanted to become involved in their lives, get to know them again, and spend time with them. It did not quite turn out the way he expected. Without going into details about personal lives I will say that two of his children lived the type of lifestyle that he did not want for himself. His other child is a wonderful mother and is well adjusted in her role as a Mom to 4 great kids. This is what he wants for his two other children as well. Of course we can't choose the lives that our kids live or choose the path that they decide to follow. We have to stand by and watch them make mistakes, even mistakes that we may have made in the past and hope that they learn from them. It's a very scary thing to see our children make such bad decisions in the way that they live their lives and we know there's nothing we can do about it. We can give advice but most of the time they are going to do what they want to do no matter how we feel about it.
Now as for his daughter who is treating him the way she is right now, he tried to get together with her before we left to tell her in person that we were leaving. He tried to meet up with her the night before but friends seemed to be more important. Then the next morning, he tried to get together with her for breakfast but it seems she does not have an appetite that early in the morning. So he had to tell her on the phone that we were leaving. He even told her that she was more than welcome to come with us. But there are too many things that are keeping her there....mainly the unhealthy lifestyle that she is living. Maybe in time she will realize that she wants something better that what she now has the person who is keeping her there is nothing more than a very bad influence over her.
As Russell is going through it now, I've seen my kids make some bad choices in life and it really sucks that I can't do a damn thing about it. All we can do is hope for the best for them, and hope they get their lives straightened out.
Peace to you all....and especially at this time to my children and Russell's.